… are not easy, they are promises made and given a framework that will cost us. 20 years ago Monika and I made a commitment to one another, one that we did before God in a lutheran church in a small viallge 60 km from Munich. I so remember making my vows, and how 20 minutes before that moment, I was waiting for the ceremony to begin. I was so nervous, will I hold my word? will I be the …